Second marriages tend to be understated events; both parties are older, wiser, more experienced and often are focussed on making the public commitment to each other in front of a small group of close friends and family. Unless one or both parties were widowed, there’s a recognition that the “to death do us part” element of the commitment isn’t quite as legally-binding as they may have thought during the giddiness of their first attempt at the ceremony.
Obviously, there’s always an exception to prove the rule. Witness; planning a non-binary wedding.
I couldn’t even pick a pronoun. How was I supposed to decide what costume to wear on one of the most important days of my life?’
Yes, you sound a real catch, nice and stable, a great choice for a long term life partner.
“I’m in a body that isn’t saying the right things. It’s not me,” I explained. “I feel like I’m wearing a rubber suit all the time and nobody can see me inside it.”
“I see you,” he said. I knew he did. I felt it.
Is it just me or does anyone else remember this Peter Cook line from the classic film, Bedazzled;
George Spiggott (the Devil incarnate): In the words of Marcel Proust – and this applies to any woman in the world: If you can stay up and listen with a fair degree of attention to whatever garbage, no matter how stupid it is, that they’re coming out with, ’til ten minutes past four in the morning… you’re in.
I’d recommend not reading the article and, let’s face it, it’s on the Guardian’s website, so few will but it continues in a very similar LOOK AT ME!!! theme;
When I walk down the aisle this time, in front of every person who knows me, it will be as someone who lives in their body. Not a bride on a cake, but as myself, a person who is too complicated for the simple rituals that are the pattern of our lives.
Let’s have moment’s silence for all those poor brides and grooms who were married as people not living in their body, but brides on cakes who sadly were commensurately-simple for those simple rituals.
No, I’ve no idea what any of that word salad means either.
Further ramblings and some pictures of a woman with a short hair cut can be found here.
There are few modern ironies greater than the fact that the only member of ZZ Top not to proudly display a beard is called Frank Beard.
However, the lack of self-awareness of people who angst about what their preferred pronoun should be is a close candidate.